Tuesday, January 29, 2013

My Twin Sister is a Rock Star


I'm like a proud mom sending off my child to her first day of school. My twin sister just started a new job today and I was so excited for her, I walked her out and sent her off with a bag lunch like she was starting Kindergarten. I had a hard time sleeping last night because I am so relieved she found a new job that will treat her with the respect she deserves. She recently left a position she'd had for nine years. She was given a new supervisor who should have never been in a supervisory role. She was inexperienced, unprofessional and hostile. Instead of being straight forward with my sister about changes she and the Executive team wanted to make to her job, she went about it sideways. She was manipulative, pushy and down right abusive. I would call her a work place bully. It got so bad, my sister was barely able to go into work and was taking all her sick and personal time. She was depressed, had migraines and didn't have that twinkle in her eye anymore. I watched her get progressively more and more depressed and hopeless. Just walking in the front door of the agency was a huge accomplishment for her and it took every ounce of her strength. It became even more difficult to get motivated to go into work after she had the courage to file a HR complaint against the woman. Although Laura made a complaint, the agency was not willing to do anything about it. They told my sister that she had to deal with it anyway. My sister is a woman of great faith and immense integrity. She was clear with HR that  if they wouldn't give her a new supervisor, she would need to resign. In the end, through many difficult days, Laura did resign. It was very risky for her to do as the primary bread winner, but she knew it was something she had to do.
Laura just called me on her first dayfrom the new job. I got tears in my eyes when I asked her how it was going and if she felt good about the new position. She said, "I'm home Linda, this is where God wanted me." Laura trusted all along, from that first day she left as Director of Volunteers at a Human Service Agency. She listened to her gut and had faith in God that it would all work out. Her courage is such an inspiration to me as her identical twin. My sister is a great example of what it means to be a christian with a strong faith. She never wavered; leaving a stable job because she knew she deserved more.  My sister is a rock star to me. After just a few months of being unemployed, she now has a dream job that she earned. She is the new Director of Volunteers for a Senior Housing Agency. She's earning significantly more money, has her own Administrative Assistant, but most importantly, she is being treated the way she should be treated. She is being respected as a professional that's worked in the Human Services Field for many years.
There is no amount of money worth dealing with a work place bully.
My twin sister is a rock star that I greatly admire.



15 comments:

  1. You are right! There is no amount of money worth all of that. I'm so happy for Laura. Give her my best! ...and a hug!

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  2. Aww-I just read this to Laura and she thanks you. God guided her to the perfect agency. I am ecstatic for her. Nice to see you Darlene.

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  3. I am glad that she was able to escape that...that weight just crushes you every time you go to work...it is a good thing to escape that...and great to feel respected and given the opportunity to flourish again...

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  4. I am so happy she was able to get out of that bad situation and find something else. Life is too short to have that much stress and be miserable! YAY! ♥

    Kathy
    http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.com

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  5. Hi Brian and Kathy-thanks very much for reading about the workplace bully. I am so glad she's in a new environment that is respecting her. She just lives working with the elderly at her new job. It fills her soul up with joy, especially since both our parents have passed away.

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  6. hey linda...you can add a new or old poem...does not matter...smiles...

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  7. Thanks Brian-Much appreciated. I will do my first poem tonight :)

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  8. Hey Linda, the such close bond you have with your sister, that you write so feelingly about on your blog, is something I envy... Bless you and your sis... Like Brian, I am looking forward to your first poem - maybe next week on dverse? With Best Wishes Scott www.scotthastie.com

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  9. I am happy for your sister ~ And I do agree, there is nothing worse than having a bully for a supervisor and manager ~ All the best for your sister and nice to meet you as well ~

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  10. Hi Scott-what a nice comment. I am really blessed to have a twin sister that I can call my best friend. I did post my very first poem on Tuesday night/Open Link Night. I am so glad I found the dVerse Poets Pub. I just love poetry.

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  11. Hi Grace-thanks for coming by. I am so glad my sister got out of the bad situation and is now happy at a new job where she is being treated with the respect she deserves.

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  12. Congrats to your sister Linda! The bully in her previous job was a blessing in disguise. It led your sister to her dream job. Your twin's experience taught me that every event has its purpose, and bad things can lead to good things.
    Your sister is very strong. It takes a lot of courage to make such a big step. I'm not sure if I could do the same if I were in her shoes. It's hard to leave a job that you have for so long. Your sister rocks!:)

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  13. Aww, great to see you cheerfulnuts and thanks for your nice comment. I am so happy and proud of sis. Her new job is amazing and she is getting so many new wonderful opportunities. Thanks for taking the lesson out of this experience.

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  14. I bet being a twin is amazing. I really enjoyed reading this. I know Laura via Redgage, and Facebook, and she always seemed to be a very kind woman, just like you are. I'm happy that she and you both have found joy and happiness in her new position, which she really deserves for always having faith. Great blog post :)

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  15. So awesome to see you here Brad. Thanks too for following me here. I didn't realize you knew Laura on RedGage and Facebook. Facebook is one of the internet sites I'm not on. I let Laura do that for me. LOL. I'm on plenty of sites as it is-my blog, twitter, RedGage and Hubpages. Sis fills me in on what's going on with the gang on Facebook. Thanks so much for your support of my work on the different sites. It means so much knowing people read and enjoy my work. Have a great week Brad.

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